Worried About Bullying at School?
Help your child understand bullying, build confidence, and follow a clear step-by-step process if they are being picked on, excluded, hurt, or made to feel unsafe.
This free guide from Koku-Ryu Martial Arts gives parents and children a practical 5-step process to help children speak up and stay calm.
Bullying Can Knock a Child's Confidence Quickly
This guide is ideal if your child:
- Has been called names, left out, pushed, threatened, or targeted online
- Struggles to speak up when someone is being unkind
- Feels nervous about telling a teacher or parent
- Needs a clear process to follow rather than reacting in the moment
- Would benefit from more confidence, assertiveness, and emotional control
What Your Child Will Learn Inside
The guide breaks bullying down into simple, child-friendly sections so parents and children can understand the issue together.
The 4 Main Types
Verbal: Name-calling, threats. Physical: Kicking, pushing. Indirect: Exclusion, rumours. Cyber: Hurtful messages, posts.
Why It's Never OK
Children learn that bullying is never acceptable and that no one deserves to be bullied. It removes the blame from the victim.
School Challenges
Helps parents understand why schools sometimes need clear information and repeated communication to deal with bullying properly.
The 5-Step Process
A clear process to follow so children know what to say, who to speak to, and when to take the next step.
The 5 Steps to Beat Bullying
The guide teaches children a simple step-by-step process that helps them stay calm, use their voice, ask for help, and involve adults at the right time.
- 1
Use Your Kindness and Confidence
Politely ask them to stop and explain why.
Example
“Please can you stop that? It is making me feel upset.”
- 2
Be Confident and Firm
If it continues, tell them clearly to stop and explain what will happen next.
Example
“Stop it. I told you I do not like it. If you do it again, I will tell the teacher.”
- 3
Use Your Actions
Tell the teacher and explain what is happening.
Example
“Please can you get them to stop doing it? It is upsetting me and stopping me from getting on with my work.”
- 4
Try Again If Needed
If it still continues, tell the teacher again and explain that it has not stopped.
Example
“They are still doing it and it is really upsetting me now.”
- 5
Use Your Feet
If the problem still continues, go and see the Head Teacher.
Example
“I have tried asking them politely, I have told them to stop, and I have told my teacher twice. It keeps happening and I need it to stop now.”
Parents: Your Support Matters
The guide reminds parents that children need to know they will be backed when they follow the process.
- Back your child when they follow the agreed steps
- Speak to school calmly and constructively
- Avoid blaming the school before the facts are clear
- Help your child explain what happened and how they feel
- Stay involved until the issue is resolved
Why Martial Arts Helps
We help children develop confidence, discipline, focus, respect, and self-control.
Martial arts does not teach children to look for conflict. It teaches them how to carry themselves with confidence, use their voice, stay calm under pressure, and ask for help when needed.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this guide suitable for all ages?
This guide is written for parents and school-aged children. Younger children may need a parent to talk through the steps with them.
Does this replace speaking to school?
No. The guide encourages children and parents to involve school appropriately. It gives children a simple process to follow and helps parents communicate calmly and clearly.
Does martial arts encourage children to fight back?
No. At KRMA, martial arts teaches confidence, control, respect, discipline, and self-defence awareness. The goal is to help children stay calm, speak up, and make safe choices.
Can I book a class after downloading the guide?
Yes. Parents can book a free taster class with KRMA to help their child build confidence, resilience, and focus through martial arts training.
No Child Deserves to Be Bullied
This guide is designed to give children a clear starting point. It helps them speak up, follow a process, and involve trusted adults when needed.